Vicky ko Katrina mil sakti hai toh kuch bhi ho sakta hai!
It was that evening during the December of 2021 when the bone-chilling winds were casually window-shopping every house of the town, sneaking in the small crevices, and leaving behind a shiver and a teeth chatter to prove their presence. While in the distance, an all-day hide & seek game of clouds and the sun was witnessing a closure, with a meeky sun accepting its defeat, lurking behind the clouds, and leaving for the day. With the daylight to a bare minimum for the human eyes to see anything, darkness slowly started to spread its carpet over the horizon. A flock of birds danced and formed a beautiful pattern in the grey sky while returning from their daylong excursion. It was one of those times when you crave a hot cup of tea and a warm blanket to give you some warmth in that retirement of the day.
Overlooking these events getting unfolded through my window, sitting on my workstation, I was working on my project, wrapped in every woolen cloth that I could get to cover myself, with a hot cup of my favorite Ginger Tea by my side, while Ritviz's Khamoshi gave a good company in the background. It was a perfect setup to build some New Year plans that were in my mind for a quite long time. I pinged a few of my friends with the same lame conversation starter - "Hey Buddy...wassup", thinking positively that I would finally have my New Year plans sorted this time.
“Nothing much bro, same...as usual.. what's up with you?” – my notification bar flashed this after a while.
And here, I found myself again in the cursed loop of Aur Batao -> Sab Badhiya -> Tum Batao -> Sab Badhiya. It is one of those situations when one is clueless to take the conversation forward and thus helpless to end the conversation in an abrupt matter. However, this time I was determined to finalize my New Year plans.
“same here bro.. BTW what's up with new year's plans? Do you have any? I have something in mind..”,
and I successfully helped myself to come out of the loop and guided the conversation where I wanted to in the first place. Funnily enough, the talk that initiated with the plans for New Year went to the Page 3 of Times of India. And when everything was discussed, from the nostalgic moments of our college days to the Modi’s new masterstroke to the craze behind NFTs, the pointer finally ended on a sarcastic laughter from my friend who said, "Vicky ko Katrina mil sakti hai toh kuch bhi ho sakta hai".
And I was like – "kaun hai yeh log, kaha se aate hai yeh log?", while ending the conversation abruptly with no New Year plans in distance.
"It is quite easier to make a judgement on other and other's relationship, than understanding the pain, process, love, respect, and care involved between the two."
Relationship Funda 101
His laughter took me back to my college days when a
dark-skinned south-Indian boy was trolled for making a fair-skinned northeastern
girl his girlfriend. The boy was always bombarded with sarcastic looks, taunts,
and cheeky laughter when alone or with his girlfriend. However, the couple
never bothered about the laughter that they would get in the cafeteria or
during their evening walks. Instead, they countered the back gossips with their
ever-smiling faces and some PDAs. It was great to see both of them continue
their association, which started in the second semester, until the eighth
(last) semester.
“What is the secret of
your relationship?” – my ever-curious mind asked the girl, when I found her
in a little corner of the library, waiting for her boyfriend.
“Let me not be a Love
Guru or any sort of Relationship Expert here but when two people decide to come
together for real, the external factors never matter to them, what matters most
is how much both understand one another, care for each other, and have trust,
respect, and value each other.” – replied the girl in a soft tone.
“Ankit, our relationship of four years has taught us five great things about being in a relationship:
- Respect each other’s feelings and aspirations.
- Trust each other for life.
- Give a sense of Comfort & a feeling of Safety.
- Respect the differences and Love the similarities.
- Keep all the reasons for being in the relationship and let go of anything that kills your relationship.
and maybe this is the
secret of our relationship. I am glad you asked this to me. Ankit, you may get
beautiful faces all around but it is very hard to find people with beautiful
souls giving you the respect, care, motivation, and positive vibes. When you
find one just hold on to them.”, - concluded the girl before leaving me in
that little corner to ponder more on what she had said.
It took me several years and a few breakups before finding the one and before being able to understand what she actually meant that day. I just couldn’t thank her enough for her wisdom.
“The beauty lies in the definition of beauty that is quite subjective in nature. What you may find beautiful may be ugly or not so beautiful for others and what you may find ugly may be the most beautiful thing in the world for others. Realizing and accepting this fact makes us superhuman of sorts.”
A question for the troll in every one of us
Imagine coming close to a person who, according to you, is
the most beautiful person in the world. You start to fantasize about living all
your life with her, waking up and looking at that beautiful face every morning.
You feel lucky to find this beautiful princess from a fairyland. You are always
excited to meet her and soon your relationship starts to flourish. You bring
nice flowers for her every time you meet her and feel happy to see the smile on
her face. However, after spending a month with her, you realize that she does
not possess similar thoughts, views, or approaches towards general things in life.
Your likes and dislikes are poles apart. She rejects your choice of activities
and devalues your opinions. The excitement in your relationship starts to wear
off with every fight you have with her. Your dreams of looking at her
beautiful face, every morning, fade away and so does the frequency of bringing
flowers for her. “She is not-your-type.”,
whispers someone in your ear whenever you go on a date with her or otherwise.
In contrast, you meet another person who possesses similar thoughts, views, and
approaches towards general things in life as you and has similar likes and
dislikes as you. When you both are together, you talk for hours without realizing
the passage of time. She understands and intelligently accepts the difference
of opinions while respecting the nature of the discussion. You like when she
readily agrees to try things out of her comfort zone to gain new experiences in
her life. She motivates you whenever you are dejected and energizes you by her
presence when you need some push to move forward an obstacle in life. “I like you.” – a voice echoes within you
every time you are with her. You happily look forward to spending time with her
knowing that she is not the most beautiful person by face, but in terms of nature
and character, she is the most beautiful person you know of. You feel sad at
the thought of leaving her.
Who would you like to spend the rest of your life with,
between the above two?
“The beauty of every human relationship lies in the fact that it relies more on connection of thoughts and energies than sheer fairness of the face. The funny thing is that the beauty of the face fades away with time while the beauty of the character intensifies with every passage of time and experience, memories and moments of togetherness.”
I was brought back from my memoryland to the chilly winter evening by a message from the same friend excitingly saying – “Goa chalte hai yaar!😎”.
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“hehe…kya kismat hai yaar.”, “Vicky and Katrina seriously?”, “Aur koi nahi mila tha kya use?” (“hehe…what a luck man.”, “Vicky and Katrina seriously?”, “Didn’t she find anyone better?”) – these are some of the comments our respected trolls have given for the newly-wedded couple, and I am so proud and glad to receive such highly-valued comments from them. Their hard-earned wisdom, from trolling several others over the years, has a boon for society and especially for the low-intelligent mortals like me. Their presence has given a new meaning to my life. Thanking them for giving me some of their enlightenment.
P.S: This is an opinionated blog that may offend many. So if you are the one getting offended, God bless you.
Until the next time...
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